“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway… let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.” ― C. JoyBell C.

That quote is how kids grow up and learn to be adults, but why is it that some people don’t understand or don’t know how to let go? My parents are both Asian parents, but they are actually not like the stereotypical Asian parents with their harsh rules and what not. They were kind, caring, and they let me do what i wanted, so i can grow up and learn from my mistakes. My girlfriend’s parents however, are totally opposites of mine. I never thought i would meet Caucasian parents who are more strict than Asian parents. She is about to turn 18, but her dad makes her come home by 7 because its a “school night”.  My 14 year old brother has more privileges than her! Its frustrating for me and my girlfriend because we can’t do anything, without her parents knowing every single plan, and knowing where we are every single second. Like why can’t they just not let her grow up and give her some room? For you parents out there, please do not be like my girlfriend’s parents. In the end your kids will end up hating and resenting you, for treating them like 12 year olds. Sure you might love them and want to protect them, but letting them go is another way of loving them. Let them learn everything, but still be by their sides when they need you. Don’t make every decision and treat them like little kids, like my girlfriend’s parents. Have a relationship with your kids and understand them. I love my parents and i miss them all the time. Why? Because they trusted me and let me learn my own way, and for that reason i have a relationship. i talk to them about everything because they understand how i feel. I believe that’s the right way for a child to grow up. By having a relationship with their parents and being able to grow up when it is time to grow. The one thing my girlfriend wants from her parents is a real relationship with them. So please have a relationship with your kids and don’t be like my girlfriend’s parents. Learn to let go and let your child grow.

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