“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway… let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.” ― C. JoyBell C.

That quote is how kids grow up and learn to be adults, but why is it that some people don’t understand or don’t know how to let go? My parents are both Asian parents, but they are actually not like the stereotypical Asian parents with their harsh rules and what not. They were kind, caring, and they let me do what i wanted, so i can grow up and learn from my mistakes. My girlfriend’s parents however, are totally opposites of mine. I never thought i would meet Caucasian parents who are more strict than Asian parents. She is about to turn 18, but her dad makes her come home by 7 because its a “school night”.  My 14 year old brother has more privileges than her! Its frustrating for me and my girlfriend because we can’t do anything, without her parents knowing every single plan, and knowing where we are every single second. Like why can’t they just not let her grow up and give her some room? For you parents out there, please do not be like my girlfriend’s parents. In the end your kids will end up hating and resenting you, for treating them like 12 year olds. Sure you might love them and want to protect them, but letting them go is another way of loving them. Let them learn everything, but still be by their sides when they need you. Don’t make every decision and treat them like little kids, like my girlfriend’s parents. Have a relationship with your kids and understand them. I love my parents and i miss them all the time. Why? Because they trusted me and let me learn my own way, and for that reason i have a relationship. i talk to them about everything because they understand how i feel. I believe that’s the right way for a child to grow up. By having a relationship with their parents and being able to grow up when it is time to grow. The one thing my girlfriend wants from her parents is a real relationship with them. So please have a relationship with your kids and don’t be like my girlfriend’s parents. Learn to let go and let your child grow.

What is Love to you?

What_Is_Love

To me love SHINES LIKE A DIAMOND

It makes me smile when I see her face

It makes me cherish every second with her

To me love is MY EVERYTHING

It made me who I am today

Its what changed me for the good

To me love CAN BE TROUBLESOME

It makes me worry and care for her more than i do myself

It makes me jealous of the little things i shouldn’t be jealous of

Without love it CAN BE LONELY

I would have no one to call my special person

I would just be another somebody

Since I have love I have A REASON TO WAKE UP

I have someone to look forward to see

I have a purpose to make her happy

To me love is SOMETHING YOU SHOULD CHERISH

It makes me want to hold her in my arms and kiss her every second

It makes me happy

To me love HAS A NAME

Love is KRISTEN 

And she is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE

What is Love to you?

Happiness

Happiness

What is Happiness?

According to the dictionary it means, “A mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.”

What is happiness to you?

Happiness, to me, is doing what you want to do. Not because someone wants you to do it, but because you actually want to do it. May it be, playing a sport, or even just reading a book. What makes you happy, i think is happiness.

I know for me, it is when i am smiling, laughing, and loving life. Happiness can be so many different things, to every individual person. Some people find happiness when they are with a special person or if they are doing what they love to do.

I remember one time when i came back home from a trip that took two months. I came out of the airport and there was my beautiful girlfriend waiting for me. That moment was one of the happiest times i have ever been. Just knowing, that when you come back home, there is someone waiting for you. That moment is one that i always cherish in my life.

People, in general, go through so much hardships in their life. Most people don’t even know what happiness is anymore. With all the violence and drama in everyday life. Happiness is a rare thing to find. So if you have found happiness, don’t let it go. Keep it with you and cherish it, because you never know what tomorrow will bring.

“Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.”
-William E. Gladstone

Remembering The Past

Remembering The Past

So does anyone have any past moments that they regret or wish they haven’t done? I know i have, just remembering some of the dumb things i have done before, i’m just like “dang, was i really that stupid?” I guess when you think about it real hard, it just seems really dumb to you in the present.

I’m sure there are some things where you wish you could travel back in time to change, but until they make a time machine, it’s not going to happen. A lot of times i think about the past and it really brings me down and just puts me in the dumps. I finally learned not to stress so much about it anymore.

What’s done, is done. All you can do now, is move forward and live on with your life. Either be depressed and relive those moments in your life, you wish you haven’t or pick yourself up and think about the future. That way, you can learn to forget and live a happier life. Life is too short to live in shame and regret. Learn from your mistakes and just pull yourself together and move on! That is what i’m doing and i definitely do NOT regret it one bit. 😀

“Remember the past, plan for the future, but live for today, because yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come.”
-St. Luke